30 things about sex you need to know

Sex is one of the most natural things in the world, yet so many myths and misconceptions surround it. From outdated beliefs to internet rumors, it's easy to get caught up in misinformation.

This list is here to clear things up. And if you have any sex-related myths or questions you want answered, drop them in the comments—we’ll tackle them in a future post.

1. Drinking Coca-Cola won’t kill sperm.

This myth has been around for ages, but no, Coke is not a spermicide. It’s just soda.

2. Jumping after sex won’t prevent pregnancy.

Sperm are tiny but determined. Once they enter the vagina, they’re on a mission, and no amount of jumping or shaking will change that.

3. You won’t get pregnant from swimming in a pool.

Unless you're actually having sex in the pool, sperm aren’t just floating around waiting to impregnate someone.

4. The “safe period” isn’t a guarantee.

Ovulation can be unpredictable. Emotions, stress, diet, and hormones can all throw off your cycle, so don’t assume you’re safe without protection.

5. Pulling out isn’t foolproof.

Even before ejaculation, pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) can contain sperm, meaning withdrawal isn’t a reliable birth control method.

6. You can get pregnant while breastfeeding.

Even if you haven’t had a period since giving birth, ovulation can still happen. If you’re not ready for another baby, use protection.

7. Peeing after sex won’t prevent pregnancy.

While peeing after sex helps prevent UTIs, it does absolutely nothing to stop pregnancy.

8. Anal sex and swallowing semen won’t cause pregnancy.

Sperm need to be inside the vagina to make a baby. The digestive and reproductive systems aren’t connected.

9. A vasectomy doesn’t kill your sex drive.

A vasectomy only prevents sperm from being in the semen—it doesn’t affect testosterone, erections, or libido.

10. Women masturbate too—it's completely normal.

According to a 2018 global survey, 48% of women masturbate. It's not just a "guy thing."

11. If you’ve never had an orgasm, try masturbation.

It’s one of the easiest ways to explore your body and understand what feels good—without distractions or pressure.

12. Masturbation won’t make your vagina darker.

Vaginal color is influenced by genetics, hormones, and aging—not by how often you masturbate.

13. Bigger sex toys aren’t always better.

Using oversized toys can be uncomfortable or even painful. The best sex toy is one that fits your body and feels good.

14. Sex toys won’t make you lose interest in real sex.

After orgasming, your desire naturally drops for a while, but it will return. This is no different than not feeling hungry right after eating.

15. Clean your sex toys—every time.

Sex toys don’t cause infections—improper cleaning does. Always wash them before and after use.

16. Women buy more sex toys than men.

Surveys show that women are the biggest buyers of sex toys. Meanwhile, men are more likely to buy performance-enhancing products.

17. You can use sex toys during your period.

As long as they’re external or properly cleaned, there’s no issue. Orgasms can actually help relieve period cramps!

18. Masturbation starts early.

Even fetuses in the womb have been observed touching themselves. Toddlers (ages 2-4) may also explore their bodies, which is completely normal.

19. Masturbating in a relationship doesn’t mean something is wrong.

Many people in happy relationships still masturbate—it’s just another way to meet their own needs.

20. Too much rough masturbation can cause temporary numbness.

If you always use the same intense technique, your body might get used to it, making other forms of stimulation less effective. Give yourself breaks and switch things up.

21. Foreplay isn’t optional.

Sex is a lot better when both partners are fully aroused first. Take your time!

22. Longer sex doesn’t always mean better sex.

The ideal duration for penetrative sex is 7-13 minutes (not including foreplay). Anything longer can feel forced or tiring.

23. The clitoris is key to female pleasure.

Around 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm—so don’t ignore it!

24. Stop asking, "Did you come?"

Nothing ruins the mood faster than putting pressure on someone to orgasm. Focus on enjoying the moment instead.

25. Women like hearing pleasure too.

Just like men enjoy hearing moans, women appreciate verbal feedback during sex.

26. Communication matters, but keep it simple.

Dirty talk doesn’t have to be a monologue. Short phrases and body language are often more effective.

27. Changing positions is about pleasure, not performance.

There’s no award for trying every position in one session. Do what feels good, not what looks impressive.

28. Frequent sex doesn’t mean someone is "good at it."

Quality over quantity. Skill comes from understanding your partner’s needs, not just racking up numbers.

29. Porn isn’t an accurate representation of sex.

Porn often exaggerates or completely misrepresents sex—think unrealistic squirting, marathon sessions, and over-the-top reactions.

30. The best lovers know their partner’s body.

Great sex isn’t about tricks—it’s about being attentive and responsive to what your partner enjoys.

Final Thoughts

Sex is a mix of biology, psychology, and communication. The more you understand it, the better (and safer) your experiences will be. If any of these facts surprised you, or if you have more myths you want busted, let us know in the comments!